Choose love, love!!!!

 Why is the question we ask .......When in the glory of the sun we dont bask!!!

These are the lines from the poem I wrote in the 1st year MBBS. (under the desk during a PSM lecture; being productive I guess!). So being curios most of the times makes me think a lot about things. It just starts with this question Why and ends up me writing the blog on love. So you would ask what is a topic like love doing on a blog for public health.

Love shouldnt be taken for granted. Love makes us do things. Love motivates us. And not just for others. Love for oneself wil help you love others. There is a difference in loving yourself and being selfish. When you love yourself you can appreciate yourself without judging yourself. It helps you to not judge others. When you dont judge others you accept them the way they are and in turn love them. 

The motivation for writing this post doesnt stem from the fact that I am looking for a life partner (which ofcourse is a quest of its own; perhaps as difficult as finding the purpose of gravity ). NO - Before another train of thought starts let me put down the real reason of this blog. It is leadership. 

Leadership is of different types. The best amongst them is the servant leadership*(opinion). While studying during my post graduation i had to learn about leadership. As a publichealth doctor it is necessary to have such skills. To address the issues of the public related to health it is not possible for a doctor to work on her own. You have to delegate and keep people together and motivated towards the cause. 

This is when love happens. Love for the cause keeps people going. They are motivated naturally since they believe in the cause. Other is love for the people. When the leader  loves those who are helping him ( yes they are helping him and not working "under" him, neither are they dependent on him) he will make sure that they are understood and instead of blaming them for some mistakes he will ask their problem and the reason behind the mistake and try to solve it. 

Its going to be a year this June for Samvad- beautiful conversation!! I started it along with the most creative mind of Tejaswini Pethe. With her enthusiasm and conviction and ofcourse her love for whatever she does, we have created something beautiful. We registered it in November and it has officially become an organisation from an instagram page. We are a growing family of around 60 members who find time to do whatever they can towards the common cause of good mental health. Their love for the cause keeps me motivated. The strongest of our pillars the counsellors- who keeping in check their mental health are taking care of the mental health of so many others and not just in India but also abroad. Love keeps any organisation going. Love makes us respect each other. Love helps us to criticize each other without taking it personally. Love helps us do what is actually needed and not do something just for the sake of doing "some social work". 

I dont want to talk about what we have achieved nor do i want to talk about what we plan in the future. I just want to be thankful of where we are right now. And its the best that anybody has ever created.

Yes I confess I started this for myself. To make a place of my own on this earth. To be satisfied at the end of the day that I am doing something for a cause I believe in. And I just hope that this selfishness (ofcourse I am talking about love for myself ) has some positive side effects. 

Just wanted to put a few things across:

Lets change the way we converse. Lets be honest about our feelings. Lets keep our mental health in check. Lets keep our physical health in check. Lets talk about issues that really matter. Lets laugh at things which dont. 

It helps - trust me !

If u need someone to listen to you go to this website samvadngo.com and fill up the tiny form and we will put you in touch with someone.

Keep spreading love always!!

Love you all to the edge of the universe and back!!